Weather the Storm: A Small Guide to Understanding and Developing a Healthy Relationship.

So the other day I was speaking with a friend about her recent break up. She was so heart broken over this guy who didn't care too much about her. I decided to pour my heart out in an attempt to help my dear friend redeem herself and dignity. Although it was short lived, I did my best to free her from this slump. Then I realized that there are different levels to our interactions that determine the level of our relationships.

Here's something that maybe helpful!

My father told me that...It has much to do with this blog and it correlates with what I am talking about.

In life, you will be separated from someone always. Not only physically, but also in many other ways that may make physical absence the least of anyone's concern at that particular point in time. Before finding the easy way out and running, try to endure the pain that is being brought on you for that time. I pray that those who read this understand my view point.

First, there are many levels to deal with different people on.. allow me to explain:

Being together sexually is like level one. It's the easiest thing to do; next to walking down the street. Some base a relationship off of just that.. There is no need to get to elaborate into this point because mature people know that nothing that is only physical lasts.

The next level is the mental level. I like this one myself ... You think you are connected to one another because of common interests. That is beautiful. But there is more to having a good relationship than someone who is able to converse with you very well (and hopefully sex you silly too).

Another level that i think is essential is being emotionally connected. Need I say more?

Intertwined with that, is the psychological connection. I've noticed that some people play a subtle power game which leads to an attempt in making their partner (as well as friends) subservient to them. For example, little things like giving a smaller cup to your partner when you can give equal size cups... you know what you are trying to do.

And finally is the spiritual level.. Which I believe is the highest of all. And it is also the meat of my blog!

Being connected on a spiritual level is strong enough to last through anything. Strong enough to overcome any evil. And most importantly, powerful enough to travel across the world. The reason I say this is because G-D is everywhere (I'm not about to get biblical, but just feel me on this one)...

Being in the US Army, the chaplain always says "there are no atheists in foxholes," meaning everyone prays in their time of need. The Most High is everywhere and with his help you will be able to sustain yourself through anything that is put in your path. Many things may come before you and your values. Money and temptation from the opposite sex are among the many things that will try to deter you from you goal... These things will not only pull you away from your loved one, but also G-D. Connecting on a spiritual level is not solely meant for you two to go every Friday, Saturday or Sunday to praise the Most High (depending on your religious preference).. It means building the home that the teachers of the message of G-D --such as Moses, Jesus, Muhammad and other prophets-- speak on in those religious books (you know, the Quran, the Bible and the Torah just to name a few).

THAT'S what will make you and your loved one weather the storm with calm fortitude...

You feel me? If not, read this again SLOWLY.....

Disclaimer: These thoughts are not only meant for people in relationships.. but also as tips on how to deal with people in any: way shape or form during your journey through life...